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It’s almost a year ago now; Celeste, one of my oldest friends and I are on the phone watching the Ironman Triathlon together. Now you know how you get when you’re on the phone with someone who knows you better than you know yourself? You get yourselves into trouble. We are and always will be each other’s greatest enabler for the many schemes, plans and plots that make our lives interesting.

“You know, we could do that.’

“You know it, and we would complete it even if we are old, broken and decrepit”

“I don’t know about you, but I ain’t decrepit.”

“Fine, but we’d still finish, just like that girl from The Biggest Loser.  We’ve gotta train, and I mean like now, today, this very minute.

“Yeah, well, okay. So can we be at least a little logical about this right. There’s NO WAY we’ll be able to train hard enough from scratch to finish the Hawai’i Ironman for next year.  We could build up to it gradually; in 6 months we can do 5K’s and then add 10K’s, and then add ½ marathons.

“Right! Good plan. We’re already good swimmers, so that training will be ok. What are the distances for each leg?”

“Hmmm, I’m not sure.”

“Okay, so we’ll do research, and come up with a training plan”.

“Right! Talk to you tomorrow.”

“Right! Tootle pip!”

“Pip tootle.”

And that’s how it all started. Summer 2012 Celeste and I became triathlon long-distance training partner. There’s more to the story, and we’ll keep you posted on our training plans, competitions, and all the other crazy things that happen when two ordinary women lay claim to their rights as Amazons!

I wanna hear your tales of daring do, so comment and tell your story.


Hello All,

 and welcome back!  This week is the 2nd Femmes of Color Symposium.  This year’s conference is a Gateway to  Action!   All about femmes of color and how we are making community and becoming our own best allies.  Come  see all the happening with a fun fierce group of femmes from all over the US and abroad.  Happenings and news  are guaranteed for this amazing event.  Friday is  an absolute bounty of femme performances, cause you know we  do it all: sexy shimmy, wordsmith’s to tantalize your brain, and tickle your senses.  Come check us out!

On the eve of what is sure to be an altogether amazing weekend, I had the great pleasure and privilege to interview the founder of the Femmes of Color Symposium, Ms. Kenya Simone Daugherty.  She is a northern-born yet southern-raised phat afri-native buddhist lesbian activist, idealist, womynist and bridge builder.  

A 2nd generation femme cultivating ties within and acting as a catalyst for her various communities
by creating femme space within the greater LGBTQ community.  THE FEMMESPOT, a femme community
is just one of her early creations; 6 years of coordinating the people of color gatherings for one of the largest LGBTonline sites is another accomplishment of this Renaissance Femme.  She founded HIRSHE — an
online femme/butch of color community, she presented at the 1998 femme conference, was a member of the steering committee and presented at the femme 2006 conference.  Now she comes full circle and is the conference chair for the Femme of Color Symposium 2011 .

Take a listen, and then come join us for a wonderful weekend in Oakland with the Femmes of Color Symposium 2011.

We look forward to seeing you there.

Hello Femmeverse!

I almost never read to a group what I’ve written, but tonight I braved the vast chasm of doubt that plagues many an aspiring writer. I read from one of my ongoing projects to a writing group that I belong to. Fear is the little death, and I bring myself more to life each time I stand in the light of fear and swing for the fence.

Mangled clichés… Yep, but it means exactly what it says. I tell myself that I will NOT allow fear to rule my life. I refuse to let it rule my choices, but it does have an absolute effect on how I make choices. I choose to not let fear be in the mix from moment to moment.

Amongst the many projects I’ve chosen to take on is this blog. I’m still working on the format, and making decisions about content, but as we all know it’s about the “FemmeVerse” we each make of our lives. “Femme in Pride” podcasts, posts and vlogs are in various stages of pre and post production.  I look forward to your feed-back in the coming weeks.

If you are a self-identified femme and would like to be interviewed for “Femme in Pride” please contact me at I’d love to hear from you!

Ciao Darlings!